辛曉琪向現實低頭    

 

辛曉琪向現實低頭
 

曾經聽一些訪問過辛曉琪的同行說辛曉琪並不好訪因為她很情緒化訪問隨時會不歡而散。聽到這樣的評論心裡難免有些擔心並暗想﹕ “有沒有這麼誇張呀”訪問15分鐘辛曉琪耐心地擺著各種姿態讓攝影記者拍照無論坐著翹腳站著還是擺各種嫵媚的姿態她都有求必應而且還主動多問一句“這樣可以嗎“照片夠不夠” 又多補了幾個姿態令在場的攝記不自覺的又拼命拍了很多張。眼前的辛曉琪雖沒有親切得如鄰家的阿姨但也不像一般勢力的惡太太在訪問時不斷問她戀情姐弟戀還是前男友她都沒上演變臉戲碼相反的還能侃侃而談就像在述說著別人的故事一樣處之泰然。是失敗的戀情讓她變得更世故了還是她明白到要向現實低頭的道理不管答案是什麼親民的辛曉琪才是最迷人的。 

 

 

不介意被取代

想起“療傷歌后”大家腦海裡浮出第一個印象非辛曉琪莫屬她的<領悟><味道><忐忑><女人何苦為難女人>等等陪伴很多失戀的女性度過不少傷心的夜晚。如今“療傷歌後” 出反擊她不要只做愛情裡的失敗者她學會主宰自已的愛情一首<我也會愛上別人的>讓所有走出失戀陰霾的女性拍案叫絕。

轉型後的辛曉琪“療傷歌后”的地位很快就被小天后梁靜茹所替代對此辛曉琪一點都不介意她豁達地說“我的歌曲能夠陪伴大家不開心的日子已是我一大滿足不同階段有不同的東西和新概念沒有所謂取代不取代最重要是聽我們歌曲的歌迷能有所領悟。我希望大家不開心的時候聽到我的歌時會感到安慰有股她們努力撐下去的力量開心時我的歌又能給她們鼓舞的作用。”

當了這麼多年的“療傷歌后”辛曉琪但言一點都不會覺得累因為她很清楚歌曲的魔力足以讓一個人感動很久。“或許很多人會覺得被一種封號鎖著會很有壓力很辛苦就像要背著一個很重的包袱此的但我就剛好相反如果知道這個‘包袱’的性能你就不會覺得是壓力。

辛曉琪說她就是這麼一個人‘看得開’的人因為她知道改變不了的事實只有用樂天的心接受它然後慢慢發掘它的優點這樣你的人生才能過得開心和滿足。 

隨時再闖情關

辛曉琪出道至今每次發片都一定逃不過感情的糾葛像她唱紅的<領悟> 說的就是丈夫有外遇的問題情況就像她首次的婚姻狀況一樣 。這段維持一年的婚姻因辛曉琪的丈夫有了外遇而告終結果她把<領悟>唱得感人肺腑更把她的歌唱事業推向巔峰。3年前辛曉琪勇敢地愛上小她15歲的歌迷男友對方是在校大學生學的是生物學對于大眾關心的年齡差距問題當時辛曉琪口口聲聲表示“年齡不是問題”并希望大家祝福他們。爆出這段‘姐弟戀’ 時候﹐剛巧又是辛曉琪出專輯的時刻那是她的專輯名叫<戀人啊>。聽她甜蜜的唱出“愛你/唯一的我/在命運盡頭/感謝你/對我無私包容/幸福/在相愛之中/無形的給予/用生命/讓我勇敢承認............./戀人啊 /請珍惜/擁有.............”

這根本就是她的心情寫照這段情事那是真的專輯添加許多話題。這段‘姐弟戀’交往了3年因為小男友劈腿所有辛曉琪忍痛提出分手爆出分手一事的同時又那麼巧的遇上辛曉琪出專輯的時刻世事真的是這麼巧合嗎

“我是一個不會主動向他人交代感情事的人如果有人問到我即不會刻意隱瞞每次發片記者得很追問歌手的感情事可能因為報導的焦點都放在感情事上結果才讓大家有這種錯覺。”辛曉琪說只要她整理好心情就不介意大家追問傷心事“像大家有興趣知道我上一段‘姐弟戀’我真的是不介意談的那是因為時間已沖淡了傷感我可以很從容地去面對。

不主動追男生

走出失戀的悲傷辛曉琪早已準備好隨時投入另一段新戀情現在的她依然想再好好談一場‘姐弟戀’。不過對于擇偶的條件辛曉琪有了少少的要求“再戀愛得話我想找的男朋友不要小我很多大概在10歲之內吧我相信只要彼此契合體諒和扶持愛情乃是美好的。”如果遇到心議的男生辛曉琪可會奮力直追﹖只見她聽到這個問題時頓了幾秒鐘才回答說﹕“在愛情方面我是屬于較保守和傳統的人我覺得身為女生必須保持一定的矜持。或許有人會說現在已經什麼年代了女生應該學會為自已得幸福努力我不反對女生主動追求心愛得男生不過我個人方面就不會這麼做。”辛曉琪說必要說她會暗地裡做些暗示如果對方不醒目的話也就算了因為她深心有緣千里來相會。“有緣份的一對男女始終會碰上,沒有緣的話怎麼強求也沒用。” 

【2004-10-10/光明日報


 

 

 

In the past, I heard from other reporters that it is not an easy task to interview Winnie, because she can be rather temperamental, the interview can end very abruptly.

All these talk got me a little worried just before I was about to interview her, yet, on the other hand, I thought to myself, “Perhaps they are just exaggerating.”

During my 15-minute interview session with Winnie, she was very patient with our photographer and acceded to most of our requests for various poses.  She even took the initiative to ask if there are sufficient shots and created several more poses for the photographer.

Although the Winnie before our eyes is not as friendly as one would described as our friend-next-door, but she is also not as snobbish nor fierce and unfriendly.  When we kept asking her about her romance, about May-December relationships or even on her ex-boyfriend, she remained patient and continued to talk freely and openly, as though she is recounting someone else’s story.  Has the setback in her romance turned her into a smoother character or perhaps she has understood that one just has to face the truth?  Whatever the answer is, a personable and friendly Winnie is indeed most attractive.

Whenever the term “Healing Crooner of tragic love songs” is being mentioned, Winnie Hsin will definitely surface in everyone’s mind.  Her tragic love songs, “Understanding”, “Scent”, “Women shouldn’t make life difficult for another woman”, “Perturbed” and so on have accompanied many women who fell out of love through countless heartbroken nights.  Now, Winnie does not want to remain a failure in love, she wants to rise above herself and take charge of her love life.  Her new song “I will also fall in love with another” made these women shout “Bravo!”

In the recent few years, another up-and-coming singer Jasmine Leong has been replacing Winnie as “Healing Crooner of tragic love songs”.  Winnie seem least disturbed by this.  “I am very satisfied and grateful that my songs had been a pillar of strength to many when they needed it.  There are many stages in life and at each stage, different ideas and different inspirations surface.  It’s not an issue of replacement.  I hope that my songs can bring comfort to those who are down and can encourage them to move on and when they are cheered again, my songs can further inspire them.  the important thing is that my fans can gain greater understanding through my songs.”

After being a “Healing Crooner of tragic love songs” for so many years, Winnie is well-aware of the great influence of these tragic love songs and how these songs can still deeply move a person even after a long time.  “Perhaps many people might that that it is so burdensome and stressful to be stereotyped as such, but I feel that if you do understand the meaning behind this and its nature, you will not feel pressurized.

Winnie is such a positive person who understands thoroughly that there are many things in life that can’t be changed and with regard to these, one just have to learn to accept them and makes the best out of them.  In this way, one can learn happiness and contentment.

Winnie’s songs always relates closely with her relationships in life.  Her hit “Understanding” co-incidentally related to her past marriage many years ago.  Because she had gone through the pain, she could bring out the emotions of this songs especially deeply.  3 years ago, when she released her album “Oh Lover!”, she was in love with her junior boyfriend and the song was filled with sweetness of being immersed in love. 

“I am not one who will start a conversation on my relationships.  But, if anyone were to ask me about such things, I would share openly.  Everytime a singer releases a new album, the media tend to ask many questions about his/ her relationships and such.  I do not mind people asking me about such things if I have re-collected myself and am ready to share, for example, when people ask me about my last relationship with my younger ex, I do not mind talking about it, because it is indeed over, time has healed the pain and so I can face it calmly.

After recovering from the past, Winnie is now all ready to accept another relationship.  She is still open to see someone younger, but hopefully the age gap between them will not be that wide, anything between 10 years would be ideal.  “I believe that when both parties share a common perspective and understanding, when they show understanding and support for each other, their romance can indeed be very beautiful.”

If she meets someone she likes, will she take the initiative to pursue him?  Winnie pondered for a while before saying, “I am still rather conservative and traditional.  I tend to feel that women should still be more reserved and restrained when it comes to courtship.  Perhaps some may think in this age and generation, women should be more pro-active in pursuing happiness and thus the guy she likes.  Well, I am not saying that others can't do that, it's just that personally, I will not do it myself.  I would at most drop some hints, but if he is not smart enough to catch them, then just too bad.  Because I believe that if both are meant to be for each other, they will be together no matter what and the contrary is true too.