辛曉琪努力發掘愛 / 辛曉琪:暖昧是最美   

 

 

辛曉琪努力發掘愛
 

 

 

文/黃佩娟

 

*與小男友戀情成八卦,辛曉琪心安理得

雖然不是屬于太多緋聞的歌手,但辛曉琪與男友戀情由始至終,確實也曾是大家茶余飯後的話題。對于與小男友的戀情,到最後仍是無疾而終,辛曉琪說:“大家都知道從台灣的報章看過報導了吧﹖內容寫什麼就是什麼!”
雖雲人言可畏,但辛曉琪卻是持著“管人家愛說什麼,觜巴是長在人家臉上,他們愛講什麼,愛寫什麼對沒關係,最重要是自已心安理得”的心態。
 


*自認跟傳媒交心


“我覺得自已蠻幸運的,還沒有遇到過怎樣不道德的報導或傳言,可能我比較低調吧,而且緋聞也比較少,再加上台灣媒體對我都很好!”重要的是我是交心的人,不因為你是媒體我就跟你虛偽,大家都會覺得辛曉琪的人是蠻真實的 ……我跟台灣媒體都是朋友關係,有時他們問我的事,跟他們講不要寫,他們都會配合……”那迄今有沒有哪一緋聞是曾經讓她勃然大怒的呢﹖她馬上敲打了3下桌子說:“不會有,不會有!永遠都不會有!”
 


*重提9年前灑淚往事

辛曉琪來馬的次數不是太頻密,但也不算少。距離上一回與辛曉琪面對面訪問,卻是9年多前的事了,當時辛曉琪帶著唱出多少傷心女人心聲的<領悟>首度來馬宣傳;新聞發布會舉行前一刻,她接到了好友楊明煌車禍逝世的消息,在房哭了一輪,結果新聞發布會延遲將近半小時才進行,只為讓她平復激動心情。沒想到,面對大馬傳媒,她又一時感觸的淚灑現場 ………

當小記重提這段往事,她的臉上閃過一絲惊訝的表情。應該是沒有想到,已經這麼多年前的往事了,竟然還有人記得…… 前一晚才剛跟大馬的一位同事聊起這件事,她還說當時被我的舉動嚇到了,哈,這麼久的事,我都不記得了呢!”
 


*學會輕鬆看人生

近年身邊的朋友一個接一個離開﹐讓辛曉琪感受人生的無常、生命的短暫及脆弱,讓自已想通一些事情,可以更加輕鬆看待很多事情。

“其實張國榮的離去帶給我的衝擊最大,我覺得有時候人的想法就在一念之間……那段日子我會打電話給朋友,再三叮呤他們說:如果什麼事的話,一定要講出來。我會感覺到朋友的珍貴,更懂得主動去關心朋友,而我也會比較懂得讓人家人及朋友懂得我的想法,甚至有時大家還會以開玩笑的口吻說:“要做傻事之前,記得要先交代身後事!”

以前的辛曉琪,看待任何事的角度都是很嚴肅的,也會對很多事看得很嚴重,但這些年下來,對她而言,以乎已沒有任何事情會比生命來得更加嚴重。命都沒有了,還有什麼事會變得更嚴重?“所以她的去發掘愛,以輕鬆角度看待任何事,就可以輕鬆度過 。
 


*簡單就好

只是在感慨生命無常的同時,之前種種事件的發生,讓辛曉琪也變得有些神經質,常常會關心家人及朋友而胡思亂想。“樣性格有好有壞;關心家人,朋友不是件壞事嘛,但如果在很多方面是這樣的話,那就會比較辛苦。”

雖然自認是個會多想的人,不過辛曉琪卻認為自已會想,但想的東西都很單純,不會複雜。“其實想太多也沒有,所以還是想的單純,簡單一點就好!”


曾經免了過歌唱事業低潮,確實讓辛曉琪“多想了那麼的一下下”,可是就在她只是簡單想要離開一陣子,還沒有“想好”下一步要怎麼做的時候,案子就一個接一個來了。

當歌手當了這麼多年,辛曉琪以前只是安分扮演好歌手的角色;現在的辛曉琪卻開始參與專輯的製作部份。她說,經歷的累積讓她變得有信心了,而且她本來就是學音樂出身,現在可以說是更能把握主自已在音樂上的想法。“時間到了,應該可以自已做了!如果現在不做的話還要待何時﹖最重要是出錢的老闆說OK呀!
 


*演舞台劇,學會強忍淚水

舞台劇開發了辛曉琪人生舞台上的另一個表演域雖然演出時的壓力很大,但她卻在舞台劇上花了不少的心思而且每一次的演出,她都是那麼的用心去做。“我演舞台劇已經演了有3年了,現在還真有種小小被肯定的感覺……未來我會演更加好,可是因為獲得了大家的肯定,所以讓我變得更加有壓力﹗”
辛曉琪是個不輕易認輸、外柔內剛的人。她自認是個性情中人,不會掩飾自已的喜怒哀樂,而且很容易被感動落淚。可是,像她這麼發達的淚腺,如果是演舞台劇的話,肯定是哭了就不能再演了。因為如果哭得太厲害,根本就唱不出來歌,聲音肯定走調。她說,每次的演出都要真哭,所以如何壓抑眼淚、還有站上舞台壓抑情緒的這方面的技術層面,是非常重要的。


【2004-09-19/馬來西亞星洲日報】

 

 

 

 

Although Winnie is not an artiste with much gossip news, her previous relationship with a more junior guy indeed has been the talk of the town.  With regard to this relationship, Winnie said to the Malaysian reporters, "I am sure all of you must have read a lot from the Taiwanese media.  Well, whatever's happened is whatever's reported in the media."

 

Winnie shared that she is not bothered about what people say, what's more important is that her own conscience is clear.  "I consider myself rather lucky.  Thus far, there isn't much irresponsible or unethical reports in the media about me.  Perhaps because I tend to keep a low profile and I do not invite much gossips, in addition, the Taiwanese media has been rather kind to me.  Very importantly, I am a truthful and sincere person.  I am not hypocritical towards the media.  Everyone feel that Winnie is indeed a true person ... I treat the Taiwanese media, the reporters as my friends.  When they ask me some things about myself, I will share with them, but if I ask them not to publicise nor report it, they will not, they have been very co-operative."  When asked if thus far if there is any news report that really made her blood boil?  She replied confidently, "no no, never will."

 

Even though Winnie does not come to Malaysia very frequently, she has been to the peninsular many times.  It has been 9 years since the last time I had a face-to-face interview session with her.  In that occasion, Winnie was promoting her album "Understanding".  Just before the press conference, Winnie received news that her good friend had passed away in an accident.  She was so shattered upon hearing the news that she broke down completely in the hotel.  As a result, the press conference was delayed for half an hour.  When she finally re-collected herself and appeared in the press conference, she broke down again in front of all the reporters and media. When I brought this up to Winnie, she was very surprised that after so many years, people still remember that incident.  In fact just the night before this interview, Winnie's colleague also brought up this to her.  She laughed, "It has been so many years, even I have forgotten about it."

 

In the recent years, several good friends passed away and these made Winnie realise that life is indeed short, fragile and unpredictable and so, she she has learnt to be easy on herself and learnt the value of letting go.

 

"Actually, Leslie Cheung's death has the greatest impact on me.   In those days, I make it a point to call my friends and kept reminding them that if they have any troubles, please do not just keep things to themselves, they ought to confide in someone.  I treasure my friends more and takes more initiative to care for them since then.  On the other hand, I also begin to open up myself and share more of  my thoughts with my family and friends.  Sometimes, we even joke with each other, "If really we want to do something silly, we first have to leave behind clear instructions on how to handle matters after we are gone."

 

In the past, Winnie tends to take everything very seriously.  After all these while, she learns that nothing is more serious and important as life itself.  So now, she learns to take things easy and to discover love.  However, Winnie was so concerned about her family and friends that she over-reacts at times.  "It is not a bad thing to be concerned, but if it is overboard, then it can be hard on everyone."

 

Winnie admits that she sometimes thinks too much but she feels that her thoughts are not that complex.  "It's no use thinking so much, so might as well keep things simple."

 

There was a period of time when her singing career wasn't that smooth-going and she did think a little further for a short while.  But just as she thought that perhaps she would take a little time to go away, she became so busy with projects after projects.

 

All these while, Winnie had been happy and contented with being a singer.  But now, she wants to produce her own album.  She shared that, after accumulating all the years of experience, she has become more confident and with her firm grounding and foundation in music, she wants to have more say and influence over the end results of her albums.  "The time is ripe to be myself!  If I don't do it now, when else would I do it?  Importantly is that boss has given the go-ahead!"

 

 In 2003, Winnie was involved in another aspect of performing arts - the Musical.  In everything that she does, she is always so wholehearted, and Winnie really put in a lot of effort in the Musical performance.  "The Musical was very well-received and it gave me a small sense of achievement and at the same time, more pressure to keep up with everyone's expectations."

 

Winnie may appear very gentle, nevertheless she is someone with very strong determination, one who does not admit defeat easily.  She also admits that she is not one who hides her feelings, she expresses her emotions rather openly and she can be easily touched to tears too.  In the Musical, she had to overcome her weakness of crying easily.  If she did not control her emotions well, she would not be able to carry on performing.  If she broke down halfway through, it would affect her singing too.  And it became an important challenge for her to overcome herself in this area.  [And she did it!]

 

 

 

辛曉琪﹕暖昧是最美
 

文/振宗
 

辛曉琪﹕愛情最美的一段是在那還末明朗的暖昧階段﹗雖然我年紀也不小﹐不過我對愛情的心態還是像小女生一樣﹐我還在期待下一段戀情的到來。

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在還末接觸辛曉琪之前感覺是上她應該是那種很冷酷的藝人可是在接觸她之後感覺就不一樣了。在記者會上辛曉琪不設防的與媒體們大談自已的感情世界而且不時更可以開怀大笑。讓全場的媒體對被她的健談所感染這場記者會就如朋友間的互相交流。辛曉琪的上一段姐弟戀或許真的讓她遇到了挫折可是她并沒有因此而退縮只是讓她學乖了一點點而已。因為姐弟戀對她目前來講還是可以接受不過只是把年齡的差距縮短10歲以內水瓶座愛冒險的個性完全在辛曉琪身上展露無疑因為她每一次投入一段感情的時候就會把之前的教訓忘掉所以她認為一直以來她的感情路會走得比較坎坷。而且經過幾次的感情重傷之後辛曉琪已經學會釋放不會再像以前那樣執著。兩個人一起最重要就是可以開開心心不會再像以前那樣執著于結婚生孩子。其實辛曉琪覺得一切隨緣因為她覺得人與人之間的相遇是一種緣份所以目前的她也沒有什麼要求了。

【2004年9月/Cool 娛樂

Winnie shared, "love is most beautiful at the beginning stage when both parties are still not very sure about each other yet something seems to be developing.  In the face of love, she is still very much like a little girl, full of expectations of beautiful things in life.  I am looking forward to a new relationship."

Before this opportunity to meet Winnie, I had the feeling that she is perhaps a rather serious and cold person.  However, after the press conference, my impression about her changed totally.  Winnie was open to share and her laughter was contagious.  This press conference was just like a gathering amongst friends.

Perhaps she suffered a setback in her previous relationship, but that did not cause her to retreat.  As far as now is concerned, she is still able to accept someone younger in her romance, a 10-year age gap is still acceptable to her.  She simply shows the character of a true-blue Aquarian - adventurous.  Everytime she falls in love, she tends to forget her lessons learnt in the past and so she feels that her love life has never been very smooth-going. After going through several bad patches, now she learnt to let go and does not emphasize so much on getting married and setting up a family.  More importantly, both parties should be happy being together.  She believes that all relationships are meant to be and she just leaves such matters  to her own lot in life.